My husband and I have been given the opportunity of taking care of our niece, and two nephews. They’ve been through some difficult times lately and we felt that they needed more stability in their lives. It’s something we’ve wanted to do for a long time now. They are at that age where the situations surrounding them will have a profound effect on their lives as they grow up into adults. At least that’s my feeling. I remember what it was like at that age, to be in a situation where you’re not sure what will happen from moment to moment. It creates feelings of insecurity, self doubt, and even depression. I don’t want them to go through that. I want them to be in the best environment they can be in for whatever amount of time we are allowed to have them. I want them to see what it’s like to live in a stable caring environment with two people that work together and get along. They don’t get to see that often. I don’t know what their views of a “normal family” are but I think they know that what we have is the closest thing they can get right now.

It’s not as difficult as I thought it would be. They are old enough to do things around the house, wash dishes and vacuum. If they do something wrong we talk to them as adults and tell them what the consequences of their actions are. We don’t yell. My husband has really shown his ability with the kids since we’ve had them. I look to him now to talk to them and guide and direct them. He’s exceptionally good at it and they respond to him. We’ve had them just over a week but it feels like it’s been almost month. I guess kids do that to you. It’s all been a blur of activity. But it’s all good. I hope someday they’ll look back and remember their time with us and smile. I hope that their lives will be better for the experience. I know ours will be.